Physical boundaries for christian dating
Making a decision on the fly with no forethought is a recipe for going too far. Is it in our best interest to engage in these practices prior to marriage? For those who have adopted the standards of behavior endorsed by today’s entertainment industry, these are stupid questions.
In fact, they are non-questions—meaning they just aren’t asked.
An important point to note in God’s instruction is that abstinence doesn’t have to be forever. Many of you reading this have already decided that you are going to wait to have sex until you are married. Unfortunately, many young people have engaged in these forms of physical contact and then lost their virginity because their emotions overwhelmed their sense of judgment. ” The time to make decisions about physical contact is before you get in a touchy situation.
Making a decision on the fly with no forethought is a recipe for going too far.
Individual tolerances to holding hands or other touching may vary, so there’s no hard-and-fast rule.
At first, we only did this in my [Kate’s] parents’ home when they were near.A little later we also sat like this when we were alone as well—often in the context of a conversation that was on a deep emotional level, and especially after we were engaged and began talking through more personal things …We didn’t ‘bear hug’ until a month before we were engaged, and we were careful with that.” Kissing, according to our panel, is definitely more intimate than hand-holding or hugs and should be avoided prior to engagement.” Bill agreed with Sarah K., saying, “Hugs between two people who know they are attracted to one another should be brief …
Hugs involve even more physical contact and can be misused if one is not careful and/or has a weakness in this area.” Cheryl, 23 and married, said her “main concern was finding the person that I could continue a relationship with until the end (marriage).
For those dating, it can be exhilarating—actual, real-live, skin-to-skin contact with someone of the opposite sex.